How husband and wife then can go to old

銆€銆€銆€銆€1983 I when river medical hospital living, between same room ward mate discusses lifetime together when it is silly which one kisses feelings is most valuable, finally, all unanimously agree: The feelings of husband and wife should get typeset when the first place. Its reason is parents though kindness weight such as mountain, but they after all want first you go; Offspring are pure and lovely , but you after all want first they go , only husband and wife are just the most important companions in life. China has sentence common saying , is called " husband and wife book is same forest bird, big limit comes each flies "; Westerner also likes to say " pawn poverty from front door comes in , love for from window flies away ". Though between lifetime, do not lack such instances certainly, but I think that such words are insufficient to lecture. Family is person the most valuable, most sweet harbor in a lifetime, a person no matter he when outside get what injury, may get comfort and shelter in this family final sanctuary , may raise his wound here. Have got a family that is filled with to kiss feelings, the happiness of life has got basic guarantee.A lot of persons think that money is happy and basic. I think rich may not have happiness surely really. Being easy to predict raw pen take off Na pull , clothing meal has no worry, husband again rises recently, have taken the charge of postmaster, but her last result is still to run away; "Dream of the Red mansion" in treasure Dai, China house beautiful vehicle, brocade clothing jade meal, may be called valuable very, why is still dead and dead finally , go to go? Evidently, happiness is a kind of feeling and a kind of state , is comprehensive by various factor , and becomes instead of money, is simple to pile up.Unfortunately is , a lot of husband and wife are hard to live to ripe old age , is midway Lao Yan minute flies; Even if can appearance guard old, its marriage quality also may not every one is ideal. How do you then can raise marriage quality , live to ripe old age with spouse? Here not Fang throw a sprat to catch a whale , talk over study for that my self sees.It is first , does" personality does not be joined ", this is the most common reason of the separate of husband and wife. A lot of husbands or wives always attempt to ask opposite side according to the pattern of own ideal. Actually, this is fruitless completely , can neither be successful , return meeting as family is firm to cause harm. A person has gone to the age of marriage , has grown up , its personality, disposition, behaviour way, hobby and behavior feature have become type , to change , it is extremely difficult. I think that husband and wife get along road, it is not to attempt to reform opposite side , and lie in mutual adaptation.It is second,Have got the first will draw to stretch make second. Second is to want " major event the clear confusion of minor matter ". What is major event? It is major event to concern the matter with firm family, for such problem can not make a concession. Only being this , the outside matter of others need not be haggled over conscientiously. Why? Because of husband and wife can only "mutual adaptation" Ma. Exclude the minor matter besides major event, open a eye to close a glance did not cannot.3th will understandFrom second, will inevitably again draw to stretch make Sub_clause 3 , will understand that family is the place of " do not argue ". If be on court , you want certainly " with fact is basis , with law is criterion ", the dripping wet eloquence talent that develops you merrily , arguing opposite side get thoroughly after still continue the triumphant pursuit , beat dog in the water. But family is not court, the matter in home not definitely insists to divide to have an accident non right and wrong. Give an example , if she must say ," is the sun of today raised from south side" you what to be done? That you are not must want to compete water with her to fall down to stone surely have just calculated , for example, bringing her see , is solar as being rising , or ask person to come to do certificate , prove that you are she is not? Actually, do not need completely , agree with one with sound to say " for, for, for, the sun of today definite is from Nan side rises " again what taste cannot?4th handles theA family, son-in-law and mother-in-law and the relation of father-in-law can get along normally , is harmonious, at least superficially passable, it is good that only only daughter-in-law always gets along with the relation of parents-in-law, respect far fall also have dismissed, its flames of war continuous unceasing also need not to be few. Actually the both sides of husband and wife not Fang how agreement treats the parents of opposite side. For example " earn expression ", not Fang wife goes to the parents of husband's side to go there " earn expression ", husband's side goes to the parents of the bride's side there " earn expression ". Send covert payment on festivals, not Fang wife gives parents-in-law, and son-in-law gives father-in-law , although is your money , but send effect by whom but is different.5th is important certainly , is still that銆€銆€